Marriage in our culture is struggling as an institution. This fact-of-life is costing taxpayers a bundle. Government programs seem to be ineffective and churches don't seem to be inspiring folks to stay married.
Dr. James Dobson from Focus on the Family shares a dozen marriage killers on his website. These are free. They are worth looking at and considering. They might save your marriage and save you from a lot of pain and suffering.
In his introduction to the 12 marriage killers, he says:
My advice to young couples is simply this: Don't permit the possibility of divorce to enter your thinking. Even in moments of great conflict and discouragement, divorce is no solution.
It merely substitutes a new set of miseries for the ones left behind.
The twelve marriage killers:
- Overcommitment and physical exhaustion
- Excessive credit and conflict over how money will be spent
- Interference from in-laws
- Unrealistic expectations
- Space invaders
- Alcohol or substance abuse
- Pornography, gambling and other addictions
- Sexual frustration, loneliness, low self-esteem and the greeners grass of infidelity
- Business failure
- Business success
- Getting married too young
He explains each one. There's plenty of grist for dicussion for couples either getting or already married.